Thread: Should I?

Okay, please bear with me. This is a bit of a lengthy story but I feel like some of these details are important. Seven years ago I met my best guy friend, Andrew. About five years ago, I met a guy named Hunter. Hunter and I started a romantic relationship earlier this year that lasted about five months. I got deeply attached to him and he cheated on me.

Rewinding a bit about four years ago, Andrew confessed he was in love with me. At the time I felt he deserved someone so much better than me and I still believe that. I turned him down and we managed to continue our friendship and make it past some awkwardness.

After Hunter cheated on me I went into a depression. Things didn't end well at all. I hid in my room and only went to work and my night classes. I didnt pay my phone bill so no one could reach me. I basically fell off the face of the earth. My best friend was the only one who knew how to reach me and would occasionally check on me but she was engaged and in the process of preparing for her wedding that her maid of honor was completely zoning out on (Maid of honor meaning me). The only person who took the time to check on me was Andrew. He got tired of me ignoring phone calls and facebook messages so he came banging on my door till I finally answered. And so began the healing process.

Now, Im finally happy again or at least getting there. I dont think I'm entirely over Hunter yet but I want to be. I don't want to always let what happened between him and I run my life. I feel like I'm starting to have feelings for Andrew. He's a great friend and the best guy friend I have ever had. Being around him is easy and natural. I'm worried that these possible feelings are just me being vulnerable and lonely. I dont want to ruin such an amazing friendship over a small crush. For once I want to do something right. First off, I could have missed my chance with Andrew. He may not have feelings for me at all anymore. I may have passed up a great thing. I don't want him to be a rebound either. If anything were to go wrong, I'd like to still have a friendship and I don't know if that would be possible.

I know I should wait and give myself a lot more time but after I've had more time to heal, what should I do? Would it be a huge mistake to see where things can go with Andrew? Just tell me what you would do and thanks for listening to my long winded story.

Sarah

If you really do have feelings for Andrew then try and see where it goes, if you are worried that it'll ruin your Friendship then just be good friends.

Hmm. I think that you need to just be friends with Andrew for a while. I've kinda had same experience.Don't go after Andrew just yet. You said for yourself you aren't that much over Hunter. Make sure you're officially over Hunter before you tell Andrew that you have feelings for him, if not you will have Hunter in your mind when you're with Andrew, that wouldn't be good. So give some time, do things instead of sitting around. Hang out with Andrew, like as a friend. But, do what your heart desires, the best of luck to you.

Thanks The Arbiter King, you make it sound so simple :P

Thank you Kd. You're right... thinking about Hunter while I'm with Andrew would definitly be bad. haha