Thread: My Brother

Hi, my name is Nathan,



My younger brother has just told me he is gay, not a problem for me he's my brother. However he is suffering something rotten because he has it in his head that he is wierd. I would introduce him to some friends of mine, he already knows some of them. Just that he doesnt know they are gay, only problem is i know my friends and they would probably want to jump into bed with him the moment my back is turned and i dont think he needs that sort of attention just yet. He has only told me so far and i can see him suffering everyday. I was thinking of taking him out one night he's 16 almost 17 and introducing him to how normal it is to be gay visiting clubs and just being there with him. He's never experience nightlife in the centre of our town and it might help him realise just how normal he is. Do you think that would help him, I have told him it doesnt matter to me and i know he believes me. I love him.

If he is only 16 and just felt comfortable enough to tell you know give him time to take the next step. It sounds like you are a great older brother and he is lucky to have you and your support.

introduce him to some of your friends but tell your friends to back off for awhile, after all there your friends you should be able to tell them these things.

wow thats a tuff one, im guessing theres 100's of people in your same position in this world.

maybe you could start off putting him in some gay chat rooms around the net, let him talk and see how they deal with things.

does your mum/dad no about this? if not good luck, i hope he comes to no that his just human like the rest of us. god there gay bars, gay marriage, heaps of stuff, its kinda welcome to the 20th century. im sure he'll be fine in the end, good luck.

I'm not sure having him go in the Gay Chatrooms is the best idea. I modded one for a year and very soon realized most of the guys there were not really gay but only after some much needed relief. Whatever you do take it slow and be there to help him. I'm sure if you introduce him to your friends they will be understanding and hopefully supportive since they are your friends and he is your brother. Best of luck with it Nathan. Please update us on what happens.

Well, there is a festival in the Netherlands, every year, the Gayprade.

Very much gay people come to Amsterdam, with their parents. They step on a boat with there parents in the boat behind them, it shows that the parents support their children. Very much gay people go to clubs with eachother and learn eachother how to come out and support the gayness.



Well, I dont know if thats in the UK too, but if youre brother want to meet new people and be respected. Amsterdam is the perfect place.

Basically me and my brother spent the whole of yesterday just talking, well he did most of the talking i listened. He had so much bottled up inside him it was quite upsetting to realise exactly what he was feeling. It got quite emotional at times. I finally persuaded him to join a site where he could ask whatever he wanted from teenagers in the same situation as him. I dont have all the answers because i'm not gay i said, also lol and behold he has a friend, that was such a relief to hear believe me. I also suggested gay youths clubs, i had already looked 2 up in our town and 1 is quite near us. He didnt seem that interested at first but if he can persuade his friend to go with him he will give it a try. All in all we had a great day bonding yesterday and i am so glad he has some one who is special to him. I go back to uni next week and i was really worrying about him. I have told him to take it slowly and at his own pace. If and when he decides to tell our parents and he wants me there i will come home.

you sound like an amazing brother, he's lucky to have you

Great to hear you two had such a wonderful day bonding. He will go to you each time he is ready for more help in taking another step or more advice. Just let him go at his pace and be there when he needs you. You should be very proud of yourself handling like you are. Sad but some family and friends disown people when they hear they are gay. Keep updating us Nathan.

Well my brother (Luke) and his friend Daniel have actually gone to the youth club tonight i dropped them off. They said they would probably only stay an hour to see what it was like. That was at 6pm its now 9.30 Luke just rang will i pick them up at 10. Guess they are liking it more then they thought. Luke has really come out of his shell, i guess he's learning that he can be himself no matter what others might think or say about him. His only concern which is playing on him is mum and dad. I have told him not to worry about that just yet just tell them when he's ready to. I really dont see it being an issue mum and dad have never as far as i can remember criticise anyone for their lifestyles. I think he is imagining the worst and not seeing the goods things but i am not going to push him into anything he doesnt feel comfortable with all i want to do is reassure him that no matter what mum and dad love him. He keeps forgetting thats he's the baby in the family and no matter what that will never change. He hates it when i say that lol.



In case i havnt done so already thanks everyone. Me being able just to ask helps me as well because i know my brother has to go his own way, but no matter how big he gets and no matter how embarrassing it is for him.



I WILL STILL HUG HIM